One of the most important insights I have received on the spiritual path is that it is not the thoughts, feelings and physical sensations that are the problem, it is the resistance to them that is the problem
Mind stuff is transient. It comes and goes. Anger comes and anger goes. Grief comes and grief goes. Resentment ditto. Jealousy ditto. Even physical discomfort comes, and in its time leaves.
But the ego cannot leave well alone. It worries. It frets. It justifies. It suppresses. It represses. It gives up. It loses hope. And its resists the resistance. And resists the resistance to the resistance, until in time we are coated with a thick crust of resistance which holds the mind-stuff captive.
How can we free ourselves of resistance? Once again the tools are the same: Awareness and acceptance. In order to be free, first, we must be aware of our resistance.
It is only by working our way through the resistance that we can free ourselves of our habitual patterns of thoughts and feelings or even physical issues.
As awareness and acceptance gradually dissipate the resistance, so many entrenched habits, circumstance and physical ailments begin to shift, because it was the resistance that held it in place.
I have been finding remarkable shifts in health simply by accepting my resistance to the discomfort of sinus or of a poor stomach.
A friend of mine was very upset when she found that company policy prevented her from being eligible for a promotion. When she eventually accepted the situation, the company changed its policy, and she got the longed-for promotion.
When we accept someone’s hurtful behaviour, it often happens that the person begins to change his behaviour. Resistance stops the flow of life and therefore creates stagnancy and discomfort in every part of our life.
Through accepting the resistance, we will re-enter the flow of life and health will pervade our spiritual, emotional, mental and physical lives.
Suma Varughese has had a long and illustrious career as a writer/editor/journalist for 40 years. She was the editor-in-chief of Life Positive, India’s premier body-mind-spirit magazine, for over 12 years, prior to which she was the editor of Society magazine for five years and has also been a senior editor with Gentleman magazine. Suma is a popular guest speaker at many conferences and seminars and has been intimately connected with the rise of the spiritual movement in India.